Have you ever been in conversation with someone and felt like they were just focusing on your blemish, wrinkles, large pores, or even psoriasis? When you meet someone for the first time the first thing that they see is your face. We connect to each other mostly via eye contact, so the face is the focal point. We all have our own insecurities with our skin that can really hit your self-confidence hard. I know from personal experience just how difficult this can be to not only overcome trouble skin, but also understand it. I also think it’s important to understand that even though we are not defined by our physical appearance, we all deserve the right to feel confident in our own skin.
I had pretty decent skin all of my life, aside from the occasional breakouts as a teen. I would rarely use skincare and thought I was pretty lucky. I didn’t wear SPF until I was in my 20’s and I unfortunately tanned in an indoor tanning bed for many years. In 2010 I decided to do an at-home peel and things went very wrong. I was left with red, irritated, and damaged skin. My skin was so irritated and angry that I started to get full-blown acne and dermatitis. I was 21 years old and the most self-conscious I had ever been in my entire life. I worked in an office at the time and every time I would speak to a co-worker I felt like all they were doing was looking at my horrible skin. In my head I thought I wasn’t being taken seriously as an adult because I had acne like I was a teenager. My social life took a major hit as well, I would stay home instead of socializing to avoid stares and questions about my skin. When I did decide to go out and socialize I would avoid cameras, I did not want to be photographed. Looking back through photos I know exactly when this time was because you will not find one photo of me during that time period. I missed out on many great memories all because I was too self-conscious about my skin. To this day I do suffer from easily irritated skin and redness. Something I never had until that point in my life when my skin was at its most fragile state. It took time to figure out how to repair my skin and for me it came in the form of natural based products. Instead of treating my skin with harsh acne treatments, I had to treat it with gentle and nourishing products.
Our skin goes through a journey just like we do. During different times in your life your skin is probably doing something different as well. For many teens it is usually acne that they suffer from. For many aging adults it is the onset of wrinkles and gravity taking its toll. Many people suffer from conditions like eczema, psoriasis, and rosacea. Nobody has perfect skin, but some people are a lot closer to an ‘ideal’ complexion and it can make your self-esteem take a hard hit to think of how flawed your own skin might be. You never really know what someone has gone through in their life with their own skin struggle. It is important to remember that you must listen to your skin and take time to get to know it as it changes. It is also important to understand that many of these major companies use supermodels as their spokesperson along with tons of photoshopping to make you think that you too can have perfect skin if you buy their product.
Problematic skin can be a very daunting task to take on, and often times it does come with embarrassment to even ask for help with it. I would suggest to start with a visit to a dermatologist so that you can get a professional opinion on what your skin condition actually is. From there you can see what your options might be to get your skin where it needs to be for you to feel confident and not have to hide behind makeup or fear of judgement based on your skins condition. You might also need to evaluate your diet and current product lineup to see if something you’re using could be the cause of the problematic state of your skin.
Self-confidence can seem like an entirely external thing but you are not defined by your skins condition. Many problems that we experience with our skin can just be temporary and be an easy fix. For some others it can be a lifelong struggle that can be managed. Regardless, realize that each one of us is special and beautiful in our own ways. We cannot let the beauty industry or society tell us what is and what isn’t beautiful. We must love and accept ourselves before we can allow anyone else to do it. Each one of us is unique and special and along with that comes the treatment for our skin. I am a firm believer that if you just take a few moments each day to examine your skin, it will tell you what it needs. As you change and mature, so will your skin. The same things that worked for you at age 21 might not work for you at age 38, etc. Be willing to accept aging and be willing to accept changing up the treatment of your skin. We can be confident and beautiful at every age and phase in our lives.
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